List of Conversation Topics

One of the most frustrating things I have ever experienced in a conversation, is if I and her runs out of things to talk about. Since you found this post I assume you know what I’m talking about, and maybe you are interested in learning how to avoid awkward silence?

I’m thinking about the teeth pooling moments where the awkward silence just takes over the situation, you are just sitting their smiling while desperately in your mind scrambling for something just mildly interesting to say, but you just can think of anything, your mind is totally blank, it terrifying, at this point you can’t even remember your own name. (Lol, I think we all experienced this at some point.)

Finally you hear yourself saying something completely uninteresting, like: “sooo.. do you come here often”, she says “no its my first time!” And then the conversation dries up once again, the awkward silence start to eat you both up from the inside until one of you can’t stand the social pressure and thus make up some excuse to leave.

It’s a horrible horrible situation to be in, I have thus decided to make this cheat sheet of interesting conversation topics to ensure, that you will never run out of things to say again.

You are not alone; many guys have asked me about “which conversation topics are the best to talk about on a first date with girl” all us secretly fear moment of awkwardness. Also make sure to read “The natural conversational starting and ice braking pattern” and our conversation starter techniques.

Here are a great list of Conversation Topics

IMPORTANT: Please know that the topics themselves are actually not that important, its not what you say, but how you say something. Strive to keep it positiv, light, and charming (more about this later, but without further ado, here is the list of conversation topics).

Talk about Past (positive) Experiences:

  1. Mayor events: Current events or event that has made a huge impression on you: 9/11 is something that everyone can relate to, but it’s not going to evoke positive feelings in her, strive to keep it light, trade concert experiences and other mayor events can be a great source of conversation.
  2. Past funny experiences: Tell her about the last time that something out of the ordinary happen to you.
  3. Vacations: Find out how she is adventurous. Find out if she like metropolitans or wilderness traveling.
  4. Future Plans: Ask her what she want to be when she grows up (even if she an adult), ask her about her dreams and ambitions. Ask her what she likes about her current job, ask her how she would like that job to evolve, would she like to be a manager on day.
  5. Hobbies: Ask her what kind of art she does. Talk about yours and her passions, what are you learning right now, what activities make you the most excited.
  6. Past dates: I would not recommend that you talk about you last girlfriend or some girl you never got over, but in my experience it can actually be fun to talk about hers and yours past worst date experience, blind dates gone wrong, embarrassing moments of awkward silence and good stuff like that. Those are things most girls can relate to and a good topic. You can also talk about the whole dating scene, discuss funny pickup lines which ones she has received and which one that worked.

Talk about Current Experience:

  1. Talk about “the big blue elephant in the room” – If you run out of things to say, and you feel there an awkward silence, just call it out by saying: “Isn’t it awkward when you feel like you have nothing to say?”

Talk about Personal Preferences:

  1. Tell her about your passions, what do you love doing? Find out what she loves doing.
  2. Tell her what you like in a woman and ask her about what she is looking for in a man.
  3. Tell her what you like to do for fun, and find out what she likes, (e.g. her favorite café, favorite music experience, best friend, best family moment)
  4. Talk about personal taste (What does she like/not like about her self)

Funny & Interesting Topics:

  1. Favorite childhood memories?
  2. What surprising skills does she have?
  3. Favorite complement?
  4. How is she a rebel?
  5. Time travel, where would you go?
  6. What event has changed her life destiny?
  7. Oddest job ever?
  8. Any embarrassing guilty pleasures?
  9. Worst chore on the chore list? Most liked chore?
  10. Greatest achievement?
  11. Most memorable birthday?
  12. Future honeymoon destination?
  13. Recent life changes?
  14. What would you do if you won the lottery?
  15. What’s your theory on deja vu?
  16. What level of school was your preferred one?
  17. Worst date ever?
  18. What gets you excited?
  19. First life memory?
  20. Favorite toy as a child?
  21. What outfit makes you feel the most sexiest or confident?
  22. Do you have a fetish?
  23. How do you spend your weekends
  24. Favorite food?
  25. Best gift you ever gave/or got from someone?
  26. What is the one cleaning tip you swear by?
  27. Do you believe in fate?
  28. Tequila story?
  29. How would you like to be remembered when you are dead and gone?
  30. How do people often misunderstand you?
  31. Your ideas for a perfect night out
  32. Ideal vacation length?
  33. Ideal 5/10 year life plan
  34. Last time you lost your temper?
  35. Most embarrassing moment?
  36. What stresses you the most?
  37. Three main goals in life?
  38. Five things you can’t live without.
  39. First time any of you broke the law? (keep it innocent, and funny)
  40. Which movie/book are you ashamed to admit you love?
  41. What is the one book you think everyone should be required to read?
  42. What books have you read more than once?

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A  final quick warning

Be careful – Don’t ask too many questions! 

Never turn a conversation into a interview, don’t just ask one question after another, instead start sharing what you find interesting, what you have been wondering about lately. When you are sharing you own perspective on things the “principle of reciprocity” will inspire her to give her point of view on whatever you just told her. Try to offer your own perspective on the subject of a question/topic before you ask her about that question, she will often feel inspired to return her opinion and yhus you don’t have to ask the question. Finally, remember that natural conversations include pauses, so don’t freak out if you are not talking constantly, remember that conversation should be a two way street, so It´s not all up to you.

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Oh and btw – another great source conversation is to reuse old conversation topics! I mean strings of conversation that you have had success with before, You don’t have invent the wheel every time you open your mouth, it’s okay to reuse a conversation topics that you have used before, especially if it has lead to interesting conversation before, chances are it’s likely to do it again. Have a small note book and write down at couple of keywords every time you have an interesting conversation.

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  1. Gorge says:

    Wow, this is without a doubt the best list of conversation topics that I have found on the internet so far.

    Thanks for sharing. :)

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  2. Bo Elk says:

    Hi Markus, this really is a very good list of interesting topic. I just downloaded your ebook with the full list, thanks for sharing..
    – Bo Elk

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  3. neela says:

    Hi Markus do you have any such list that i could use to teach effective letter writing – small conflicting situations that demand resolution?


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    • Markus Ellek says:

      Hej Neela, Currently I do not offer such a list, but I will keep it in mind and let you know when I release my upcoming eBook on the subject of “how to win and handle conflicts and discussions”

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  4. Grant says:

    Thanks for the great topic ideas! Definitely some original ones that are out of the ordinary and not cliche or tacky

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  5. Suyash says:

    Hey Markus, thanks pal! that’s gonna be some serious help for me!! Cheers!! keep up the good work dude!

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    • Markus Ellek says:

      Hej Suyash
      Thanks you for your feedback, its feels great for me to know that you found these topics useful.
      Please let me know if I can assist you in any other way.

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  6. Kutlwano Montoeli says:

    Yep the best list of conversation so far… Enough said

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  7. Markus Ellek says:

    Hi Kutlwano
    Thank I’m glad you like it, please let me know if I can assist you in any way.
    Br Markus

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  8. Joseph Mamma says:

    Great site. I never would have thought talking about Mayor Events (see point 1 of past experiences) could spark such interesting conversations. Local mayoral races are definite winners for conversation pieces. Strong work!

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  9. James Mbakpuo says:

    Hi.Markus.I cant thank you enough for this brilliant topics of conversation you just put together and your useful advice,I find it so helpful.keep the fire burning.

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  10. TheArchfiend says:

    You are a moron. These conversation topics are pretty stupid to bring up on a first date.

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    • Markus Ellek says:

      Haha, thank you for your feedback, interesting to see your video, but im sorry you didn’t like the topics.

      The thing is that these topics actually do work. Almost any topic actually does.

      Please understand that when it comes to conversation, it is actually not what you say (the topic), but rather HOW you say it (your mood/wibe) that is important.

      If you having a conversation in a happy, funny, teasing tone of voice, you can talk about just about any topic :)

      Wish you the best

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  11. ammu malar says:

    amazing blog, because in nowadays trend choosing a topic to discuss is very complicated. but this blog gives a great information about that and the information in this article also marvelous and very useful. thanks for this blog

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    • Markus Ellek says:

      Thank you for the kind words Ammu! I have put a lot of work into the blog, so it nice to feel appreciated !

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  12. md zakir hussain says:

    Nice topics.

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  13. md zakir hussain says:

    Think you.
    It’s is the best topic.

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  14. Kylle says:

    Hey bro you really save my ass thank you soo much you a very accurate topic on first date

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    • Markus Ellek says:

      No problem, make sure to check out my list of “94 first date question” (the link is found in the right side in the yellow section)

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  15. michael says:

    Hey markus, thanks for these great topics, they’ve helped me keep conversations going and to keep my special girl happy and talking. They’ve allowed me to get to know her more.
    -michael sangerhausen

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  16. Purusottam Das says:

    I’m going to mary, when I call her and converse with her, I face the same problem. But this article helped me, thanks

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  17. Robert Okeiser says:

    My brother recommended I might like this website.
    He was totally right. This post actually made my day.

    You cann’t imagine simply how much time I had
    spent for this information! Thanks!

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  18. Jonna Cottee says:

    I really like it when folks come together and share ideas.
    Great website, stick with it!

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